Within the social skills that human beings have, there are those who like to have social contact more than others. We popularly call this be...
What is it to be an extrovert?
It can be said that a person is extroverted when he enjoys social contact and enjoys being able to work in a group.
However, according to psychologist Daniel Nettle, extroverted people tend to be unfaithful (men); they also tend to have more accidents and change relationships more frequently (women).
An interesting fact is that 75% of the people in the world are extroverted. There are two types of extroverted people: shy extroverts and determined extroverts.
The shy extrovert feels a bit self-conscious and is sensitive to the opinion of others; despite this when he relaxes he really enjoys contact with other people.
The problem arises when his shyness is extreme. The reality is that he feels the need to relate to other people, but this makes it difficult for him.
Determined extroverts have no problem relating to others; What's more, they fail to understand why some people don't enjoy social contact.
What is it to be an introvert?
An introverted person is one who does not find special pleasure in social contact. This type of person is more analytical and contemplative; In addition, many more questions are asked about the world around them.
The introverted person finds much more pleasure in being alone and working alone. Something interesting is that 25% of the world's population is introverted.
In addition to the above, within this classification, there are two types of introverted people that I will cover below.
A shy introvert is someone who owes their shyness to their introversion. Such a person has a somewhat complicated situation since this leads him to feel unhappy.
A determined introvert is a true misunderstood. It happens that she enjoys her solitude and is thoughtful; however, in situations that require relating to other people, they perform well socially. One day you can fully enjoy a meeting and another wants to be away from people.
Difference Between Shyness and Social Anxiety
It is common for many people to confuse shyness with social anxiety.
Shyness is a personality trait that makes it difficult for a person to relate to others. This is because the person does not know how to relate effectively; when in social situations he “freezes” and doesn't know what to do.
Social anxiety, on the other hand, is a mental illness that is also known as social phobia. This is characterized because the person has an intense fear of being judged and observed by others. Although a person can deal with this discomfort and perform effectively, there are also those who cannot carry out important activities in their daily lives. In the latter situation, the person should seek help.
Social Anxiety Symptoms
Being considered a mental illness, it has the following symptoms:
The person will blush, sweat, tremble; Also, his heart beats very fast and his mind goes blank.
It makes you nauseous.
His body posture is generally rigid, eye contact is evasive, and his tone of voice is always kept low.
They tend to feel scared and find it difficult to be with other people, especially if they are strangers. They want to relate, but anxiety prevents them.
They feel embarrassed and clumsy in front of others because they are very self-aware.
They fear being judged by others.
Avoid places where many people.
Causes of social anxiety
Social anxiety is sometimes thought to run in families; however, there is no security in this.
There are experts who assure that it is due to some brain alterations; still, others maintain that it is due to a misinterpretation of other people's behavior.
Something that happened to me, for example, is that I always had the impression that when I left a place they would talk badly about me. I was also tormented by the fact that I felt that they looked at me badly or that I always gave a bad impression.
What happens to me now is that I never know what to say; I am “speechless” or say nonsense. Undoubtedly, that kind of feeling makes one prefer to isolate oneself.
Treatments
There are several medical resources that a person with social anxiety can turn to.
Psychotherapy can be very effective in finding the root of what impedes social functioning.
There are also support groups that help people identify with others with the disorder; In addition, they learn to deal with anxiety and fear of relationships.
You can also use a psychiatrist to help with medication to reduce the effects of anxiety.
I can say from my experience that you can live with social anxiety; it's a matter of learning to control your own demons. Little by little face what torments you. Learn to play down the belief that everyone is judging or looking at you; it's difficult but not impossible.
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